As I warned everyone when this thing started, I haven't been the best about blogging...but I'm working on it. I figure it may just be best to do one big update to catch up and then to try to start writing more regularly, again. Don't hold it against me when you don't hear from me again for another 4 months! ;)
the english wedding: My friend's English wedding was absolutely beautiful and the post-wedding vacation, was one of the greatest travel experiences I've had in a long time. Being a tourist is fun! Being a tourist in an English-speaking country is even more fun! Unfortunately, I didn't find love in England, but it was a blast all the same and I wouldn't trade the experience for anything!
adventures in online dating part 4 or "that thing": In my haste of catching up on my online dating experiences, I decided that this guy didn't need a whole entry to himself because he was a jerk and I'm not particularly interested in rehashing everything that happened in great detail. The basics--I met Vince on OkCupid one Saturday morning, we went on our first "dinner & a movie date" the very next day, then I took dinner and a movie to his apartment on Tuesday, and when we talked on Friday and Sunday. I thought things were pretty much over after our talks since we came to the conclusion that we didn't/couldn't agree on a few major issues and neither of us was willing to compromise. He called me out of the blue the next Friday to invite me to a party, we had a good weekend, a couple-y week, and he ended things the following Friday. It all boiled down to him wanting "that thing" and me not wanting to put out. His loss. And if you don't know what "that thing" is ask Ms. Lauyrn Hill.
office romance: The thing with Derek is over. I mean, I realized nothing was really there and I accepted the fact that nothing was ever going to be there...and I'm really comfortable with that conclusion. We've actually become really good friends over the past several months and I hang out with him and Troy and some other work friends on a pretty regular basis. I love that he still randomly texts me and asks me to come out for drinks, and I've had fun introducing him to my non-work friends. We spent the second half (post-midnight) of New Years together and he's asked me to come out a few more times since then.
the past: My ex-boyfriend, Malik, moved back to Houston around Thanksgiving (with the girlfriend in tow), and has not-so-surprisingly been texting & calling me to ask if I want to meet up. I know that "meeting up" is a really bad idea...so I've successfully been turning him down. I'll give him credit for his perseverance, though!
the future: In November, one of my co-workers told me that she's met "my future husband" who happens to be her cousin's son, Mark. She swore up and down for two months that this boy and I would be absolutely perfect for one another and kept trying to think of ways for us to meet. In late December, I told her that it would be easiest if we could just exchange a few emails to get to know one another that way, first, and wouldn't have some awkward introduction. She ended up giving me his email address, and I sent him an "introduction" email on December 20. He didn't write back. I feel like an idiot.
Back to the drawing board.
- L
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Thursday, January 13, 2011
Friday, July 9, 2010
where have I been?
I have been terrible about keeping up with this thing, but in my defense its because, relationship-wise, nothing thrilling has happened to me in the past month, so there hasn't been much to write about. I'm getting kinda discouraged.
the updates:
speed-dating: 2 of the 4 girls that went speed-dating went on dates with boys from the event. I am not one of them. All 4 of us matched with the same guy, and he chose to ask out my one of the other girls. 2 of the girls matched with the same other guy, who asked both of them out...and one of them accepted. I have to say 50% is pretty fair odds, right?
curtis: I still haven't rekindled the friendship with my most recent ex-boyfriend...and I'm still not sure if I'd like to. He's tried Gmail chatting with me a couple of times and has sent a few texts since our last awkward encounter, but I'm still getting this uneasy feeling in my tummy when I think about seeing him. its been 3 months at this point, but I think we need more time.
the wedding: My friends WI wedding was absolutely beautiful! I was worried a bit about traveling alone...well, I guess I shouldn't say "worried" per say, but I was wishing that I had someone to accompany me. But, everything actually turned out really well. I mapped a few art boutiques and restaurants that I wanted to check out and actually appreciated having the freedom to explore alone. On my trip back, I kept thinking about how differently the weekend would have been if I'd gone with a date.
office romance: After my latest non-intentional rejection to Derek, I think that he's completely given up on me. I've tried texting him a bit here and there...and he responds, but just doesn't really ask me to hang out anymore. I don't blame him, I'd give up on me too...but I'm secretly hoping he hasn't completely lost hope that I will hang out with him. But, the surprising twist is that I was texting him from the airport on Sunday and...apparently, he got the dates of the concert mixed up and its actually not until July 24th. I re-invited myself to go with him by saying "if the invitation still stands, I'd love to go" so...it looks like that may possibly be a go in a couple of weeks.
We'll see...
- L
the updates:
speed-dating: 2 of the 4 girls that went speed-dating went on dates with boys from the event. I am not one of them. All 4 of us matched with the same guy, and he chose to ask out my one of the other girls. 2 of the girls matched with the same other guy, who asked both of them out...and one of them accepted. I have to say 50% is pretty fair odds, right?
curtis: I still haven't rekindled the friendship with my most recent ex-boyfriend...and I'm still not sure if I'd like to. He's tried Gmail chatting with me a couple of times and has sent a few texts since our last awkward encounter, but I'm still getting this uneasy feeling in my tummy when I think about seeing him. its been 3 months at this point, but I think we need more time.
the wedding: My friends WI wedding was absolutely beautiful! I was worried a bit about traveling alone...well, I guess I shouldn't say "worried" per say, but I was wishing that I had someone to accompany me. But, everything actually turned out really well. I mapped a few art boutiques and restaurants that I wanted to check out and actually appreciated having the freedom to explore alone. On my trip back, I kept thinking about how differently the weekend would have been if I'd gone with a date.
office romance: After my latest non-intentional rejection to Derek, I think that he's completely given up on me. I've tried texting him a bit here and there...and he responds, but just doesn't really ask me to hang out anymore. I don't blame him, I'd give up on me too...but I'm secretly hoping he hasn't completely lost hope that I will hang out with him. But, the surprising twist is that I was texting him from the airport on Sunday and...apparently, he got the dates of the concert mixed up and its actually not until July 24th. I re-invited myself to go with him by saying "if the invitation still stands, I'd love to go" so...it looks like that may possibly be a go in a couple of weeks.
We'll see...
- L
Monday, May 31, 2010
social engagements
I've had a busy week since my last post, each night sitting in front of my computer debating on whether to write or sleep. Sorry, but sleep keeps on winning! I'll try to get better. Here's my week in summary by social engagements:
tuesday - wine tasting
On Tuesday night I headed out to a wine-tasting/fundraiser for a friend who has been doing mission work in South Africa for the past year. It was a house party where we tasted wines from SA, followed by her talking about the work she's been doing there and a slideshow. It was a really nice event. I didn't meet anyone new and almost all of the guys were either married, other acquaintances, or much older men. I mean, not that the event was about me meeting potential suitors...I'm just saying!
wednesday - open house
A friend of mine recently got her photography business up and running and moved into a really cute studio with 4 other girls who sell things from: event planning to portraits to invitations. The studio is an old 2-story house that has been converted into boutiques and is absolutely adorable! About a month ago, she took photos for my business website. Her assistant called a week earlier to invite me to exhibit my pieces at an open house they were having for all of the businesses and their friends & clients. I thought that it was going to be a super casual wine-and-cheese sort of event, but I went early to set up my pieces so that it wouldn't be awkward for me to set up during the event.
I drove up and saw the following: (1) suited waiters approaching the party; (2) a live orchestra warming up on the porch; (3) a florist dropping off bouquet after bouquet of fresh flowers; (4) guys setting up the bar; (5) a complimentary valet parking stand; etc. etc. It was fancy, fancy!
So after I finished setting up and the party was just about to begin, I made a B-line for the door and headed home to get pretty for the party. I was afraid that my knit skirt and flip flops just weren't going to cut it! I ended up in a flattering strapless black dress; strappy heals, and a purple cardigan. I invited a close guy friend (whom I used to have a crush on, but later decided that I was probably a little confused about my feelings toward him) and a close girl friend and we headed to the party.
We made it out back to where a D.J. was playing and a few of the girls were dancing on a dance floor. It looked like a classic outdoor wedding reception, complete with an open bar and photo booth; minus the happy couple. One of the funniest things that happened that night was this girl who came up to us (one of the boutique owners) and welcomed us and asked how we found out about the party. We mentioned that we knew one of the girls from church. Then she asks me, "Oh, is she your photographer?" as I nodded yes, she starts jumping up and down yelling, "Congratulations!! Congratulations!!" over the loud music, and then goes away dancing. I realized a minute later that she thought I meant "wedding photographer" and that my friend and I were engaged! Too funny! The night was wonderful! I met a boy that I definitely felt an initial interest in, but then it turned out that he had a girlfriend...who he was flirting right in front of! I need to work on deciphering social clues like this one!
friday - happy hour, wine bar, taco bar
On Friday night, I went out with a big group of friends to a pub. I know most of the people through church and we had a great time chatting and catching up as a group. Afterward, a friend invited me to a summer kick-off wine celebration that one of her friends was hosting at a local wine bar. My friend Ellen and I went to check out the place and to try the wine. As we were sipping away, I suddenly realized that between us we didn't have enough cash to pay for wine and dinner, and remembered that the host had explicitly asked for each person to bring cash so that the check could be split easily. When our glasses were empty, we paid for our drinks, and headed out to a cheap, but yummy ended taco place instead. We enjoyed a nice chat over tacos before I headed home to get some much needed rest before my long holiday-weekend drive up to Ft. Worth.
monday - memorial day bbq
I drove back from Ft. Worth this afternoon, realizing that when I was over halfway back that I'd left my cell phone with my sister. Luckily, I had my lucky back-up trusty work phone, that I'd actually intended to leave behind for the weekend, but forgot in my laptop bag. When I got into town, I thought it would be a good idea to call the friend throwing the party to ask what to bring, so I wouldn't be doubling up on what was already there.
When she answerd, she frantically asks if I got her phone message, and then asks if I'd invited Curtis to the BBQ, which I hadn't. He'd been rude to me during our few interactions (Gmail chat & the phone) since the break-up and I figured that it was probably too soon to see him even though we'd somewhat reconciled by the end of the last phone call.
She goes on to explain that she intentionally didn't invite him to the party because she thought it would be awkward and was shocked when he just showed up! (Close to on-time, at that!) What kind of person does that?!?! My guess is that he found out about it from Facebook (seeing that I, and a few other mutual friends) were attending the event. But, he totally came uninvited, and totally tried to act like he was invited...even having the nerve to thank my friend for the invite! Needless to say it was an extremely uncomfortable and awkward evening, but I was thankful for the heads up! I'm at least glad that he lives out of town and that we don't have to run into each other often.
Well, anyway, this week is not looking as "socially-exciting" as last week...but we'll see if anything shakes up!
- L
tuesday - wine tasting
On Tuesday night I headed out to a wine-tasting/fundraiser for a friend who has been doing mission work in South Africa for the past year. It was a house party where we tasted wines from SA, followed by her talking about the work she's been doing there and a slideshow. It was a really nice event. I didn't meet anyone new and almost all of the guys were either married, other acquaintances, or much older men. I mean, not that the event was about me meeting potential suitors...I'm just saying!
wednesday - open house
A friend of mine recently got her photography business up and running and moved into a really cute studio with 4 other girls who sell things from: event planning to portraits to invitations. The studio is an old 2-story house that has been converted into boutiques and is absolutely adorable! About a month ago, she took photos for my business website. Her assistant called a week earlier to invite me to exhibit my pieces at an open house they were having for all of the businesses and their friends & clients. I thought that it was going to be a super casual wine-and-cheese sort of event, but I went early to set up my pieces so that it wouldn't be awkward for me to set up during the event.
I drove up and saw the following: (1) suited waiters approaching the party; (2) a live orchestra warming up on the porch; (3) a florist dropping off bouquet after bouquet of fresh flowers; (4) guys setting up the bar; (5) a complimentary valet parking stand; etc. etc. It was fancy, fancy!
So after I finished setting up and the party was just about to begin, I made a B-line for the door and headed home to get pretty for the party. I was afraid that my knit skirt and flip flops just weren't going to cut it! I ended up in a flattering strapless black dress; strappy heals, and a purple cardigan. I invited a close guy friend (whom I used to have a crush on, but later decided that I was probably a little confused about my feelings toward him) and a close girl friend and we headed to the party.
We made it out back to where a D.J. was playing and a few of the girls were dancing on a dance floor. It looked like a classic outdoor wedding reception, complete with an open bar and photo booth; minus the happy couple. One of the funniest things that happened that night was this girl who came up to us (one of the boutique owners) and welcomed us and asked how we found out about the party. We mentioned that we knew one of the girls from church. Then she asks me, "Oh, is she your photographer?" as I nodded yes, she starts jumping up and down yelling, "Congratulations!! Congratulations!!" over the loud music, and then goes away dancing. I realized a minute later that she thought I meant "wedding photographer" and that my friend and I were engaged! Too funny! The night was wonderful! I met a boy that I definitely felt an initial interest in, but then it turned out that he had a girlfriend...who he was flirting right in front of! I need to work on deciphering social clues like this one!
friday - happy hour, wine bar, taco bar
On Friday night, I went out with a big group of friends to a pub. I know most of the people through church and we had a great time chatting and catching up as a group. Afterward, a friend invited me to a summer kick-off wine celebration that one of her friends was hosting at a local wine bar. My friend Ellen and I went to check out the place and to try the wine. As we were sipping away, I suddenly realized that between us we didn't have enough cash to pay for wine and dinner, and remembered that the host had explicitly asked for each person to bring cash so that the check could be split easily. When our glasses were empty, we paid for our drinks, and headed out to a cheap, but yummy ended taco place instead. We enjoyed a nice chat over tacos before I headed home to get some much needed rest before my long holiday-weekend drive up to Ft. Worth.
monday - memorial day bbq
I drove back from Ft. Worth this afternoon, realizing that when I was over halfway back that I'd left my cell phone with my sister. Luckily, I had my lucky back-up trusty work phone, that I'd actually intended to leave behind for the weekend, but forgot in my laptop bag. When I got into town, I thought it would be a good idea to call the friend throwing the party to ask what to bring, so I wouldn't be doubling up on what was already there.
When she answerd, she frantically asks if I got her phone message, and then asks if I'd invited Curtis to the BBQ, which I hadn't. He'd been rude to me during our few interactions (Gmail chat & the phone) since the break-up and I figured that it was probably too soon to see him even though we'd somewhat reconciled by the end of the last phone call.
She goes on to explain that she intentionally didn't invite him to the party because she thought it would be awkward and was shocked when he just showed up! (Close to on-time, at that!) What kind of person does that?!?! My guess is that he found out about it from Facebook (seeing that I, and a few other mutual friends) were attending the event. But, he totally came uninvited, and totally tried to act like he was invited...even having the nerve to thank my friend for the invite! Needless to say it was an extremely uncomfortable and awkward evening, but I was thankful for the heads up! I'm at least glad that he lives out of town and that we don't have to run into each other often.
Well, anyway, this week is not looking as "socially-exciting" as last week...but we'll see if anything shakes up!
- L
Friday, May 21, 2010
the boys of my youth
So, I think I should have started out this blog with this entry, because I think that it will explain a bit where I'm coming from. However, I have this problem with telling super-long stories--my friends tease me about it all the time. So, I'm limiting each past relationship to 5 sentences or less. This will be tough, but its for the best. This blog is all about moving on, right? Throughout this entire blog, some names may be changed to protect the innocent & the guilty.
Ok, here goes.
1. clay - 08/03-06/04 - "the amorous big brother"
Clay was my first serious relationship and the first guy I ever kissed. He looked out for me, and treated me like a little sister, which in retrospect makes me feel sort of icky & incestuous. We met through mutual friends at school, although he was the older grad student when I was a senior in college. I liked him a lot, but he had other ideas. He's now married.
2. malik - 06/05-07/05 & 07/06-11/06 & random flings - "the african lover"
Malik definitely kicked off my secret fetish for african boys. We had a very passionate relationship--passionate fights--passionate lovin', basically a constant roller coaster ride. We broke up when he moved to California for grad school, but we've seen each other here and there when he's been in town. He's currently in a long-term, not-so-committed relationship. He called me a few nights ago to tell me that he's moving back to Houston this winter...probably without the girlfriend.
3. Mo - 12/07 - 05/08 - "the green card"
Mo was from Mali, a guy I accidentally met online--maybe someday I'll explain how you, too, can "accidentally meet someone online." We dated for about 5.5 months and broke up after some crazy stuff with his visa and him practically asking me to consider marrying him for a green card....ummm....NO! After that whole incident, I lost a lot of trust for him which I couldn't ever regain. He's since moved back to Mali. I've got no clue on his relationship status.
4. curtis - 11/09 - 4/10 - "the ultra-conservative workaholic"
Curtis is really close friends with my friend's brother. We met at several group events before we started dating in November. I was his first kiss and he was the first boy I introduced to my sisters--we broke up the week before the parent introduction. While things started out amazingly, he transformed into a workaholic at the beginning of the year, and for the last 2 months of the relationship, I felt like I was desperately trying to recover the spark. We talked for the first time in over a month last night, and I finally got the bit of closure I was needing. He's currently single--but I'm totally over it.
With each new relationship, I felt like I was figuring out a bit more here and there about what I was looking for. Maybe the next one will really be "the one."
-L
Ok, here goes.
1. clay - 08/03-06/04 - "the amorous big brother"
Clay was my first serious relationship and the first guy I ever kissed. He looked out for me, and treated me like a little sister, which in retrospect makes me feel sort of icky & incestuous. We met through mutual friends at school, although he was the older grad student when I was a senior in college. I liked him a lot, but he had other ideas. He's now married.
2. malik - 06/05-07/05 & 07/06-11/06 & random flings - "the african lover"
Malik definitely kicked off my secret fetish for african boys. We had a very passionate relationship--passionate fights--passionate lovin', basically a constant roller coaster ride. We broke up when he moved to California for grad school, but we've seen each other here and there when he's been in town. He's currently in a long-term, not-so-committed relationship. He called me a few nights ago to tell me that he's moving back to Houston this winter...probably without the girlfriend.
3. Mo - 12/07 - 05/08 - "the green card"
Mo was from Mali, a guy I accidentally met online--maybe someday I'll explain how you, too, can "accidentally meet someone online." We dated for about 5.5 months and broke up after some crazy stuff with his visa and him practically asking me to consider marrying him for a green card....ummm....NO! After that whole incident, I lost a lot of trust for him which I couldn't ever regain. He's since moved back to Mali. I've got no clue on his relationship status.
4. curtis - 11/09 - 4/10 - "the ultra-conservative workaholic"
Curtis is really close friends with my friend's brother. We met at several group events before we started dating in November. I was his first kiss and he was the first boy I introduced to my sisters--we broke up the week before the parent introduction. While things started out amazingly, he transformed into a workaholic at the beginning of the year, and for the last 2 months of the relationship, I felt like I was desperately trying to recover the spark. We talked for the first time in over a month last night, and I finally got the bit of closure I was needing. He's currently single--but I'm totally over it.
With each new relationship, I felt like I was figuring out a bit more here and there about what I was looking for. Maybe the next one will really be "the one."
-L
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