As I warned everyone when this thing started, I haven't been the best about blogging...but I'm working on it. I figure it may just be best to do one big update to catch up and then to try to start writing more regularly, again. Don't hold it against me when you don't hear from me again for another 4 months! ;)
the english wedding: My friend's English wedding was absolutely beautiful and the post-wedding vacation, was one of the greatest travel experiences I've had in a long time. Being a tourist is fun! Being a tourist in an English-speaking country is even more fun! Unfortunately, I didn't find love in England, but it was a blast all the same and I wouldn't trade the experience for anything!
adventures in online dating part 4 or "that thing": In my haste of catching up on my online dating experiences, I decided that this guy didn't need a whole entry to himself because he was a jerk and I'm not particularly interested in rehashing everything that happened in great detail. The basics--I met Vince on OkCupid one Saturday morning, we went on our first "dinner & a movie date" the very next day, then I took dinner and a movie to his apartment on Tuesday, and when we talked on Friday and Sunday. I thought things were pretty much over after our talks since we came to the conclusion that we didn't/couldn't agree on a few major issues and neither of us was willing to compromise. He called me out of the blue the next Friday to invite me to a party, we had a good weekend, a couple-y week, and he ended things the following Friday. It all boiled down to him wanting "that thing" and me not wanting to put out. His loss. And if you don't know what "that thing" is ask Ms. Lauyrn Hill.
office romance: The thing with Derek is over. I mean, I realized nothing was really there and I accepted the fact that nothing was ever going to be there...and I'm really comfortable with that conclusion. We've actually become really good friends over the past several months and I hang out with him and Troy and some other work friends on a pretty regular basis. I love that he still randomly texts me and asks me to come out for drinks, and I've had fun introducing him to my non-work friends. We spent the second half (post-midnight) of New Years together and he's asked me to come out a few more times since then.
the past: My ex-boyfriend, Malik, moved back to Houston around Thanksgiving (with the girlfriend in tow), and has not-so-surprisingly been texting & calling me to ask if I want to meet up. I know that "meeting up" is a really bad idea...so I've successfully been turning him down. I'll give him credit for his perseverance, though!
the future: In November, one of my co-workers told me that she's met "my future husband" who happens to be her cousin's son, Mark. She swore up and down for two months that this boy and I would be absolutely perfect for one another and kept trying to think of ways for us to meet. In late December, I told her that it would be easiest if we could just exchange a few emails to get to know one another that way, first, and wouldn't have some awkward introduction. She ended up giving me his email address, and I sent him an "introduction" email on December 20. He didn't write back. I feel like an idiot.
Back to the drawing board.
- L
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Tuesday, July 13, 2010
one interesting development
So, literally, about 10 minutes after I posted my last entry I get a text from Derek, "Hey L, what's going on?" so I write back and tell him that I'm having a pretty quiet Friday night. (I was babysitting my niece at the time. )He tells me that he's hanging out with another guy from work, Troy (note: super cute, polite, and sweet--but only 24), and invites me to join them at a bar.
Now, I weigh my options. While I as all cozy and ready for bed, and not much in the mood to go out for a drink...I realized that if I told Derek "no" again, he will, definitely give up on me forever! So, I tell him that I will come out as soon as my sister & her husband get home.
I ended up convincing Derek & Troy to meet me at a bar closer to my home, where a few girlfriends of mine happened to be hanging out. We meet at the bar, and after he hugs me, he says, "Its about time I get you to come out with me!" and then turns to Troy and says, "Man, I've been trying to have drinks with this girl for like, 3 months!" (It's actually been closer to 4 but I wasn't going to correct him.)
So, the group of us hung out and chatted and joked, and had a really, really fun evening. It was surprisingly flattering when Troy would ask me a question about myself, and he'd respond with, "Oh, that's right! Derek told me about that." Which means, that Derek has talked to him a bit about me.
We didn't have very much time to talk alone, so I can't quite tell what's going on, if anything. And, I haven't quite decided if I want anything to happen at this point...but I'm definitely interested in seeing where things are headed. At one point during the evening, Troy and Derek went out to the patio and then Derek came back in to ask me to join them. They were venting to me about work, and then a girl approaches to talk to Troy, so Derek leaned over to talk to me. He looks in my eyes and after commenting on how dark my eyes are says, "So, I've been meaning to ask you..." and then we're interrupted by a bar tender who gives us the 5 minute warning. At this point, Derek, has had enough to drink and completely loses his train of thought...so I'll never know what he was going to say.
We closed down the bar at 2 am and I drove a friend home, drove myself home, and then stayed up texting with Derek until about 3:30 am.
I guess we'll see what happens...
- L
Now, I weigh my options. While I as all cozy and ready for bed, and not much in the mood to go out for a drink...I realized that if I told Derek "no" again, he will, definitely give up on me forever! So, I tell him that I will come out as soon as my sister & her husband get home.
I ended up convincing Derek & Troy to meet me at a bar closer to my home, where a few girlfriends of mine happened to be hanging out. We meet at the bar, and after he hugs me, he says, "Its about time I get you to come out with me!" and then turns to Troy and says, "Man, I've been trying to have drinks with this girl for like, 3 months!" (It's actually been closer to 4 but I wasn't going to correct him.)
So, the group of us hung out and chatted and joked, and had a really, really fun evening. It was surprisingly flattering when Troy would ask me a question about myself, and he'd respond with, "Oh, that's right! Derek told me about that." Which means, that Derek has talked to him a bit about me.
We didn't have very much time to talk alone, so I can't quite tell what's going on, if anything. And, I haven't quite decided if I want anything to happen at this point...but I'm definitely interested in seeing where things are headed. At one point during the evening, Troy and Derek went out to the patio and then Derek came back in to ask me to join them. They were venting to me about work, and then a girl approaches to talk to Troy, so Derek leaned over to talk to me. He looks in my eyes and after commenting on how dark my eyes are says, "So, I've been meaning to ask you..." and then we're interrupted by a bar tender who gives us the 5 minute warning. At this point, Derek, has had enough to drink and completely loses his train of thought...so I'll never know what he was going to say.
We closed down the bar at 2 am and I drove a friend home, drove myself home, and then stayed up texting with Derek until about 3:30 am.
I guess we'll see what happens...
- L
Thursday, June 10, 2010
my secret office (non) romance
So, there's this guy at work....
Of course, this is how the story is supposed to start. I've hesitated to talk about him because we've got this sort of strange non-romance happening due to really unfortunate timing. Because of this, I've had to often decline his invitations to hang out. I keep thinking that he's going to stop asking me out, but he still seems to keep pursuing me after a few week-long delays. Today, something happened that makes me think that he just may like me as more than just a new buddy.
Derek was one of the first people I met when I started working at my new job in October. He's got this really adorable charm about him, and the crush started when he walked over to my desk to tell me something, and then got nervous and almost forgot what he wanted to say. He's one of those cute boys, that doesn't know he's cute, and therefore he's not cocky about it. Since I work in a position where I have access to a lot information, I quickly discovered that he is almost 2 years younger. Now, I'm not an ageist or anything, but my personal cut-off is 18 months--my youngest sister's age.
Anyway, I started to date Curtis in November, and my feelings for Derek were back-burnered. It made talking to him easier. I mean, I wasn't nervous around him or worried about what to say because I was taken. We started this flirty sort of friendship, not that we hung out outside of the office. Just chatted during fire drills or when I had to get information from him or his help with a work question.
Of course, this is how the story is supposed to start. I've hesitated to talk about him because we've got this sort of strange non-romance happening due to really unfortunate timing. Because of this, I've had to often decline his invitations to hang out. I keep thinking that he's going to stop asking me out, but he still seems to keep pursuing me after a few week-long delays. Today, something happened that makes me think that he just may like me as more than just a new buddy.
Derek was one of the first people I met when I started working at my new job in October. He's got this really adorable charm about him, and the crush started when he walked over to my desk to tell me something, and then got nervous and almost forgot what he wanted to say. He's one of those cute boys, that doesn't know he's cute, and therefore he's not cocky about it. Since I work in a position where I have access to a lot information, I quickly discovered that he is almost 2 years younger. Now, I'm not an ageist or anything, but my personal cut-off is 18 months--my youngest sister's age.
Anyway, I started to date Curtis in November, and my feelings for Derek were back-burnered. It made talking to him easier. I mean, I wasn't nervous around him or worried about what to say because I was taken. We started this flirty sort of friendship, not that we hung out outside of the office. Just chatted during fire drills or when I had to get information from him or his help with a work question.
The first time he asked me to hang out was on St. Patrick's day, but I didn't get the message until several days later. He then proceeded to ask me out two more times before I was actually able to make it. We just met at a sports bar and sipped on beers and talked. He was there with another friend, that we don't work with, but the two of us ended up talking the whole time and the other guy was just sort of "chaperoning." He then started texting me on random Friday and Saturday nights just to see what I was up to, occasionally asking me on to hang out, but usually just to chat.
He's mostly asked me out on occasions when I've been out of town and I've asked him out twice when he couldn't make it. After his latest unintentional rejection, we through a phase of not really talking to or seeing one another. We sit at opposite ends of the building and have to make an effort to visit one another's desks. This can be a bit awkward when you don't have a purpose for the visit.
This week, Derek has dropped by my desk a few times for "work business" but we've ended up chatting for a bit each time. Today, after walking my my desk and giving me his usual adorable smile, he walks back to his desk and sends me an email:
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Date: June 10, 2010, 2:24 pm
To: lb@workplace.org
From: de@workplace.org
Subject: July 3
Do you like the Red Hot Chili Peppers?
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Date: June 10, 2010, 2:29 pm
To: de@workplace.org
From: lb@workplace.org
Subject: July 3
Yes
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Date: June 10, 2010, 2:35 pm
To: de@workplace.org
From: lb@workplace.org
Subject: July 3
Are they coming?
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Date: June 10, 2010, 2:37 pm
To: lb@workplace.org
From: de@workplace.org
Subject: July 3
Remember this date.
If you haven't been to Concert Place, then you will on July 3. It won't be the real thing, but there's a tribute band playing. I went this past weekend, and another band was there, playing different stuff. Anyway, it was awesome, and it would cool if you came along.
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Date: June 10, 2010, 2:39 pm
To: de@workplace.org
From: lb@workplace.org
Subject: July 3
Aww. I jut bought a plane ticket to a friend's wedding on that day. So, I'll be living it up in....Wisconsin! (yikes!) Wanna come? ;)
Please keep me posted on other concerts, though. I love live music and would really love to go sometime.
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I felt really excited and really bummed at the same time. I'm happy that he didn't ask me prior to my friend's wedding, though...because I very well may have opted for a date over seeing one of my closest friends get married--which wouldn't have been cool.
We texted for about 2 hours tonight and things went pretty well.
We texted for about 2 hours tonight and things went pretty well.
So....I'm not getting my hopes up or holding my breath. But, its just kinda exciting.
-L
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