On Tuesday night, three of my girlfriends and I went out for another Speed-Dating "party" because one of the girls who didn't go with us the first time has been trying to get a group together since last spring and we all felt bad putting her off another month. This time, I didn't worry too much about getting to dazzled up because...quite frankly, it was freezing outside and way too chilly to try to look cute.
The venue was in a really nice neighborhood, and the host was not openly flirting with all of the guys who walked in the door. (A plus from last time!) We also made it just in time for the dates and got to avoid the awkward period before the event started of everyone standing around trying desperately *not* to make eye contact with anyone across the room.
8 girls. 8 guys. 5 minutes per date. My picks were:
Curtis: The comedian. My date with him was definitely the most enjoyable one of the evening..simply because he had a wonderful sense of humor and I laughed for most of the evening. Curtis was the extraordinarily extroverted type that I'm attracted to, but is never good for me. He's in the IT field and seemed to have a love/hate relationship with is job. (Hmm, would it be weird, dating another Curtis so soon after the last one?)
Travis: The boy next door. (Do people even say that?) Travis reminded me of the guy from the last event that everyone matched with. He just seemed like a nice boy that any girl would be interested in spending time with. He had a nice mix of seriousness and humor that was charming. He's a graduate student that lives in Galveston.
Terrell: The smart one. Terrell was my second favorite date and not only smart, but also really adorable. He's also a graduate student in Galveston (and good friends with Travis whom he attended the event with). We talked a bit about his research and some about his time living on the East coast...and I just felt really comfortable with him. After the event wrapped up, we got a little more chatting in and I honestly felt that he would be the best match for me, personality-wise.
So, on Wednesday evening....I went home to check my matches and...
...I matched with...
..(drumroll please)...
Terrell!
Two of the girls matched with Travis, and one of those girls also matched with two other guys. Unfortunately, the girl who got everyone out to the event didn't match with anyone. But, luckily, the company offers a free ticket to the next party so that she can go again.
I waited for much of the week to see if Terrell would email me, [while this is a good medium for meeting people, its still a bit disconcerting because you never know if you're just one of multiple matches for someone], and when I didn't hear from him by Saturday afternoon, I broke down and wrote him first.
He wrote back last night, apologizing for not contacting me sooner, and then ended the email with this question, "So, what exactly are you looking for in your next relationship?" I read the question over and over and consulted with a couple of girl friends. It's a hard question to answer to someone who you just went on a 5 minute date with...since my answer could determine the fate of our potential relationship. "How?" You ask. Well, it could go like this:
Me: "I'm looking for a long-term commitment."
Him: "Oh wow. I just got out of something serious, I just want to casually date."
Or like this:
Me: "I'm just looking to casually date right now. I'm really busy with my career."
Him: "Well, we may not be so great together, I'm ready to settle down."
Ugh Terrell! But, the more I thought of the question over night, the more I realized that its an answer I should figure out soon.
- L
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